I used to be a perfectionist. When I was that way, my life was very stressful and I was almost always on the edge. It was very easy for me to get upset. All I needed was a small silly mistake in my work, or a new freckle on my face.
Nowadays, I am OK with all sorts of imperfections, such as freckles on my face, grey hair, grease residual on my clothes, small silly mistakes in my work, a little burned roast chicken, etc.
That doesn’t mean that I have lowered my standards. No, not at all. In many areas (such as work, study), my standards are as high as before. In certain areas (such as personal goals, career goals), my standards have become much higher than before.
For example, before my ideal home was a nice spacious flat in a big city. Now my ideal home is an ocean-facing, beautifully designed big house located on a tropical island.
What has dramatically changed is my approach to life. Before I thought I was not good enough, therefore I needed to constantly prove to myself and others that I was good enough. That was the real driving force behind my constant demand for perfection.
That was a mission destined to fail. Why? How can ever get apple juice by squeezing an orange?
Then how to get apple juice? Simple. Find an apple, then squeeze it.
That’s what I did. I discovered who I truly am. I am a perfect being who is naturally enough in every way. Therefore, I don’t need to prove to anyone. T Because I already I am.
This deep knowing eliminated the driving force for perfection. Without that impossible demand, I can simply do my best and enjoy life whatever the outcome.
Do you want to be happy? If so, you’ll have to drop your impossible demand for perfection, so that you can wholeheartedly enjoy whatever you are offered by life.