Positive affirmations have been part of my daily routine for over 3 years. To keep it fresh, I switch between different affirmations. But there are a few which I use almost everyday. The one I’m going to talk about is one of those regulars.
To help you better understand why this specific affirmation has had such a big impact on my life, I’ll tell you a little about my background, especially my childhood.
I was born to a couple of school teachers. During my childhood both China as a country and my family were suffering from serious lack in almost everything, including necessities such as food.
This experience of lack has been an almost constant theme of my life. I actually only experienced material abundance for about three and half years in my 46 years of human life.
Because of this background, I had had a deep sense of lack for many years, which inspired me to have an aspiration to create great material wealth and abundance in my life. I did achieve certain level of material abundance for a little while, but I was deeply unhappy and I had to work stupid hours every day as an exchange.
Therefore, the first time I saw the following affirmation, I was drawn to it even thought I didn’t believe it to begin with: I always have enough to be happy.
When I saw it the first time, I thought to myself, ‘This feels so fake, because I haven’t had enough to be happy for most of my life.’ Even so, I decided to include it in my daily positivity session. Because I was so desperate to feel happy that even if there was only a tiny bit of possibility of its effectiveness, I was willing to give it a try.
In the first few weeks, it did feel unnatural. Because I didn’t feel that I had enough to be happy. For example, because we were so short of money that I had been buying all of our outer clothes and a lot of other things from charity shops for quite a few years. How can I feel that I had enough to be happy, when the facts indicate otherwise?
But I persisted. I continued to tell myself that I always had enough to be happy, although I felt uncomfortable and unnatural. Basically, it was a ‘fake it until you believe it’ strategy.
After a while, I started to notice that I did not feel the strong sense of lack any more. Yes, I was very aware that we couldn’t lots of things which were considered necessities. But I did not feel as strongly as before that I had to have this or that before I could feel happy.
For example, if I saw a pair of comfy shoes which I couldn’t afford, I would feel very sad for quite a while (days, even weeks) before. But now I only felt a little sad. And the emotion died out very quickly.
The weakening process of my deep-rooted sense of lack has been going on for a long time. Now I have actually achieved a state where I do believe the statement is true. In other words, I do believe that I always have enough to be happy. And I can tell you why.
Have you ever thought about this: why am I feeling happy when certain things happen, but unhappy when other things happen?
The answer is simple yet profound. We feel happy when we are willing to emotionally accept what happens. We feel unhappy when we are not willing to emotionally accept what happens.
Now that you know the working of happy feeling, you should be able to work out why one can feel that one always has enough to be happy.
We can have the happy feeling no matter what our circumstances are. All we need to do is to be willing to accept what is. That’s what very young kids do naturally.